For more information on setting up your Tinder profile, see this guide.
In order to be matched, both you and the other person need to “Like” each other’s profiles.
Many people will recommend waiting at least a day before starting a chat. This will help prevent you from coming across as desperate.
Don’t open with a boring line like “Hey” or “Hi”. Instead, comment on something in the other person’s profile, or something from one of their pictures.
Don’t ask, “Do I look fat?” If you don’t want to hear an honest answer, don’t ask. Weight is a very sensitive issue. Hearing an answer you don’t want to hear, may just leave you offended and may start conflict that could have easily been avoided. Don’t ask questions about your match’s past relationships. Asking about past hookups early on in the relationship could be misconstrued as prying. Let the person get to know you first before asking extremely personal questions. Don’t ask question about your future as a couple. Jumping the gun with a question like this may be a heavy assumption that you two will actually work together as good partners. Asking about marriage and children with someone you just met will most likely scare them away. Don’t ask questions that just feed your ego. Asking questions that put your match on the spot may be off-putting. Examples: “If I were drowning in a shark-infested ocean, would you jump in to save me?” “If you were offered $1 billion to leave me, would you take it?”
Take a look at the interests and hobbies they may have listed. This will help you determine if you share any interests. You have to be interesting. Tinder is a form of speed-dating, and boring messages will get ignored. Use the chat to express your creativity and humor, and you can set yourself apart from all the other users in your area.
Say something like “Wouldn’t you rather ask these questions in person?” or “Come share a drink with me this weekend. " This will help get you moving towards meeting in person.
You must have Tinder installed and set up on your device in order to start chatting.
New matches – those whom you haven’t communicated with – appear at the top of the screen in the “New Matches” section. Ongoing conversations appear below in the “Messages” section. You can only chat and send messages to people with whom you’ve matched.
Tap the GIF button on the left side of the field to send an animated image.
When a match responds or sends you a message (or if you have a new match) there will be a red dot in the Chat icon on the main Tinder page.
Tap the gray silhouette in the upper-left corner of the main Tinder page. Tap SETTINGS. It’s in the right-center of the screen. Scroll down and slide Messages to the “On” (red) position. Tap Done. It’s in the upper-right corner of the screen. You’ll now be notified when you have new messages, even when the Tinder app isn’t opened.
